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4 ways to keep yourself happy [part 1]
Assalamualaikum and 안녕하세요!

daripada tak update apa-apa dekat blog ni, aku akan post article yang mungkin berguna kepada bloggers lain. aku pun bukannya apa, blog ni nampak sunyi sangat tanpa diupdate. and, after you read the title of this post, make sure you can make yourself happy! 😆


these are the steps that can keep yourself happy, and of course by yourself!

 A. loving and accepting yourself

 1. maintain a positive atitude about yourself

- accept who you are is the most imporant thing instead of focusing too much on trying to change yourself.

- use positive self-talk by thinking or telling yourself things like, “I love who I am. I accept everything about myself right now — even things I want to change. how I am right at this moment is completely fine.”

2. define good qualities 

- make a mental or actual list of everything that you like about yourself. read this list or remind yourself of it the next time you feel down on yourself. some examples include liking your: personality, hair, passion, eyes, sense of style, compassion, and adventurous attitude.

- kindness is a great quality to have. count the times that you were kind to someone this week. you can write them down in a journal or Word document. paying attention to the times you were kind can actually increase your level of happiness.

3. accept your need for growth

- being open to new experiences can help you focus on your personal growth. try new things like: different forms of art (painting, sculpting), traveling to new places, and trying things that scare you (i.e. public speaking).

- notice and reward accomplishments and changes over time. this can help you focus on the positive changes you have made and encourage you to further your personal growth.

4. focus on past accomplishments instead of downfalls

- make a list of every positive accomplishment you have made. some examples may be: graduating from school, passing a test, finishing a project, or completing an art piece.

- forgive yourself for past mistakes. look at them as ways to learn and grow. your mistakes do not define you. you can decide to grow and do better today.

B. think realistically and positively

1. believe in your well-being

- instead of looking at a glass as half empty, look at it and instead imagine that it is half full.

- pay close attention to the positive aspects of your life. what contributes to your well-being? for example, people who have a positive well-being and are happy generally have good relationships with others, take care of their home lives, and have some direction in their career (or are working toward it). think about all of these things and how they increase your well-being.

- if find yourself thinking you are unhappy or having thoughts like, "I'm not a satisfied as I want to be," identify all the evidence that goes against this idea. tell yourself, "I have everything I need right now. I am happy with how things are even though they aren't perfect. They are plenty good enough."

2. keep hope alive

- believe that things will work out okay, or the way they are supposed to, even if they aren't exactly the way you planned them.

- one way to increase hope is to catch your negative thoughts such as, "Nothing will ever change. I can't fix this." these are very hopeless thoughts that may lead to depressed mood. if you notice these types of thoughts you can immediately say to yourself, "that is a hopeless thought. i am hopeful. i may not be able to completely fix this issue, but I might be able to change something about this situation. i can at least change how I think about it." focus on changing your thoughts like this and you can become more hopeful overall.

3. think of the positive aspects of each situation

- if you or a loved one has a setback either in a job or in a personal situation, look for the positive effects in that situation instead of the negative effects. for example, identify ways that bad situations can make you stronger by building character, educating you about situations, and creating tolerance to emotional distress.

- if your lose your job, then think about the prospect of finding a better job that pays more, has shorter working hours, and can lead to a better and more enjoyable daily life.

4. practice gratitude daily

- if you have your health, then you have everything. be grateful that you are healthy enough to focus on increasing your happiness.

- make a list (mentally, on paper, a journal, or on the computer) of everything you are currently grateful for. this can include things like: family, friends, job, pets, partner, entertainment, music, government, safety, food, money, and home. when you feel like you are lacking, remind yourself of these things that you are grateful for. you have so much already.

5. own your emotions

- express your emotions when you need to. if you do this you may feel happier overall. when you bottle up emotions they can come bursting out in destructive ways (such as with anger and violence). however, letting a little bit out in healthy ways, such as boxing when you feel angry, can help you feel more balanced emotionally in the long-run.

(next part is on the way!)
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